Identifying Negative Self-Talk

Identifying Negative Self-Talk

Mindset
I used to have trouble deciphering what "negative self-talk" meant and how to determine what was constructive and what was not. In the beginning, I only pulled out the really major negative messages with words like stupid, lazy, worthless, etc. ⁠I had no idea that there was more to negative self-talk than these obvious problems. Why Does Negative Self-Talk Matter? This whole idea stems from the principle that we all spend most of our time with ourselves. Therefore, a lot of time we are talking to ourselves even if it's not verbal, it is inside our heads. So it's important to pay attention to what we are saying to ourselves. On one hand, we have to tell ourselves what we need to work on to stay motivated and to grow.…
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Accepting the Changes to My Sexual Identity

Accepting the Changes to My Sexual Identity

Personal Story
And being okay if others don't Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash Kisses scatter across my long, pale, leg as I hurriedly tell my friend I will have to call her back at another time. His dark hair tickles my thigh as he moves lower, kissing me next to my knee. I feel so ticklish and giggly and 100% completely in love with this man. But there are things I miss about my identity when I was dating a woman. Being LGBTQ I miss my individuality. I miss being recognized as an LGBTQ person by outsiders, even if I never felt accepted by the community. It may be shallow but know its true because every chance I get, I slip it into conversations. “You know, before I met my current partner, I was…
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Accepting Narcolepsy

Accepting Narcolepsy

Mindset, Narcolepsy
I believe I have tried almost everything available to treat narcolepsy. I have a strong desire to feel better. Like many people with narcolepsy, I am not lazy. I am actually overly ambitious and often do more than my body can handle and later face the consequences. I think I have worked pretty hard to feel as good as I feel now, but I always desire to feel better. (more…)
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Loving Myself with Narcolepsy

Loving Myself with Narcolepsy

Mindset
Maybe the most important lesson I have learned about feeling better is just loving myself with narcolepsy.  I'm not going to lie and say it's easy.  But I do think this is especially important for people with a chronic illness. I have ups and downs and I'm constantly working to try to do it more consistently.   It's easy to get into negative patterns and tear ourselves down. It takes a lot of practice to reverse that so that we are consistently giving ourselves positive messages. (more…)
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Positive Affirmations

Positive Affirmations

Mindset
Harsh rays of sunlight are scratching at my eyelids, begging to be let in.  I squint trying to lift the heavy lids and figure out where I am at.  It doesn't feel like my pillow or my bed, and my window faces West. I'm never harshly woken like this in the morning. It's a hotel, and the "blackout curtains" they boasted about on their page do not reach the ceiling.  It must be nearly 7:00 am anyway, so its time to wake up. Even on vacation, I don't dare sleep in and disturb my circadian rhythms.  That would send me crashing into a cycle of narcolepsy symptoms that I don't like dealing with.   I can read all the tips for wakefullness in the world and work on my sleep…
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